Yesterday I met Kenan Irving, who shared with me his Make-a-Wish campaign titled The Cancer Journal Project. This is a personal project, in tribute to his wife who passed away from stomach cancer last winter. Kenan will be posting Ashley's journal entries and his photographs that document their story. All funds raised through The Cancer Journal Project are donated to the Make-a-Wish Foundation, and 90% of Make-a-Wish donations go directly to grant wishes for children diagnosed with life-threatening medical conditions. Make-a-Wish grants the wish of a child in the US and its territories, on average, every 38 minutes.
Take a moment to read Kenan's guest post, and then head over to The Cancer Journal Project's page and follow their journey to make wishes come true.
"When I was 14 years old, I met Ashley. Four years later, we were married. Nine years
after that, she died.
On May 8, 2013, our 9th wedding anniversary, we found out that the lymphoma we
thought Ashley had was actually stage 4 stomach cancer. The two of us responded to
the news quite differently. She cried and almost immediately accepted the possibility
that she might die. I just stood there. I was unable to process and deal with that
information. I felt that if I ignored it long enough, I could somehow bend the world to my
will.
Ashley’s sister had given her a journal the day before the full diagnosis and Ashley
started writing in it. The ability to write down exactly what she was feeling at any given
moment, was comforting. It helped her cope. I never could have written in a journal
because I never accepted any of it. In fact writing this now and admitting that it
happened is probably one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. !
For Ashley though, that journal was calming. It went with her everywhere. Through
diagnosis, treatment, vomiting, pills and pain she could write whatever she wanted. I
would notice her at times while she was writing. Sometimes she would smile.
Sometimes she would cry. No matter the emotion though, I knew it helped. As soon as
an event happened, she would write in the journal. It became almost a stream of
consciousness. What she has left is an incredibly intimate and honest portrayal of what
life is like for someone dying of cancer.
Ashley and I made a deal that no one would read the journal until she died. The hope
of course was that she would get better and no one would EVER be able to read it.
That’s not what happened though. On the last page of the journal, Ashley wrote a list of
the things she wanted to do when she beat cancer. Among the list was start a charity.
That is what The Cancer Journal Project is.
I wanted the journal itself to be part of the charity. I wanted this amazing historical
document to be shared with the world. We will release excerpts from the journal and
artwork designed around what Ashley wrote. This will happen on our website and social
media accounts. It’s the hope that these words will help others to cope and understand
what can be accomplished in the face of tremendous adversity.
Cancer completely consumes your life. Not only is this disease mutating through your
cells but it robs you of time. There are doctors’ visits, tests, procedures, trips to the
pharmacy, chemo and that’s not even counting the time your body needs to heal.
Cancer treatment leaves no time for anything else. Especially not a vacation.
Ashley and I loved going to Walt Disney World. We went there on our honeymoon. We
also went back every year that we were married. She even ran the Disney Marathon
four months before she was diagnosed. I guess we never really grew up...
What’s sad is that so many kids are forced to deal with things they were never
intended to have to. Cancer is robbing them of their childhoods and forcing them to
grow up way too fast. We want to help. We want to be able to send these children and
their families on a trip. We want to give them a break from the doctors and pills. A break
from their homes that have become extended hospital rooms. We want to send them to
Walt Disney World.
This is how you can help. 100% of your donations go directly to the Make-A-Wish
foundation. The Cancer Journal Project is completely self funded. We don’t keep a dime
of your donation. Make-A-Wish will use the money to help kids and their families get a
much needed break. To forget for a while that they’re sick. To make as many memories
as possible. It takes approximately $6500 to sponsor a wish and send a family to Disney
World. We want to be able to send as many families as possible. We need your help to
make this happen. Please donate whatever you can.
What else can you do? Tell everyone you know about The Cancer Journal Project.
Visit our site often. Like us on Facebook. Follow us on Instagram, Twitter and Tumblr.
Like our posts and pictures. Share and retweet. The more people that know about
Ashley and The Project, the more families we can help.
Ashley and I had several trips planned while she was sick. We only got to take one of
them. We kept waiting for one more chemo round or one more procedure. We were
always waiting for the next week, when surely she would feel better. Time just ran out.
Please help these families take the time while they still can.
Ashley would have liked knowing that this journal, this coping mechanism, helped
others to cope."
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